Failure in bed is one of the worst nightmares of any member of the strong half of humanity. This deals a serious blow to the mental, physical condition. A repetition of the fiasco indicates the presence of any pathology. To improve your sex life, you need to know why a man ‘s penis falls during sex . In most cases, you can solve the problem yourself – without visiting a specialist. 

Why does a man fall during intercourse?

The inability to keep an erection at the most crucial moment is not uncommon. It occurs once for the majority. If it becomes regular, then there is a pathology. It is caused by psychological or physical aspects. The decision depends on what caused the sexual disorder.

Problems with erection during intercourse

Psychological features

The frequent decrease in erection during sexual intercourse can be exclusively psychogenic. Guys often have excessive tension and shyness, leading to overexcitation, accompanied not by a climax, but by a lethargy of the phallus. Young and mature men suffer from several other disorders:

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• Fear of failure due to previous relationships, the cause of sexual dissatisfaction in which could be a banal incompatibility or lack of strong attraction. Realizing this does not always help you feel confident in a new relationship.
• Excessive fatigue and psychological stress associated with troubles or workload at work, school, at home, frequent quarrels with a partner. This dangerous condition is fraught with the development of depression due to failures in sex.
• Masturbation, which has become a habit, when a man is aroused only by beautiful female bodies or specific positions to which his partner in real life does not agree.
• An uncomfortable environment during intercourse due to the knowledge that parents will be back soon or excessive noise from dorm neighbors who may hear what they are doing behind the wall.
• Prolonged sexual abstinence, accompanied by the inability to reach a climax.

The subconscious mindset to fail becomes reality. The attractiveness of the partner, desire does not affect such a pathological condition in any way. Foreplay, kisses are exciting, but at the immediate moment of penetration, the penis becomes lethargic.

The psychological aspect of pathology often causes fear:

• get infected with a sexually transmitted disease;
• unwanted pregnancy of a partner;
• woman’s dissatisfaction;
• use a condom.

The problem may be temporary. For some, an erection disappears right during intercourse due to the fear of intimacy for the first time. Further relations can already develop normally. If this is repeated with every girl, the more meetings and partings there are, the more the condition will worsen, the complex will develop.

Organic features

An erection can quickly disappear with direct contact with a partner due to the physiological characteristics or condition of a person at the time of sex:

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• lack of sleep, overwork;
• spinal injury, which led to muscle weakening, disrupted the blood supply to the pelvic area;
• diabetes mellitus, diseases of the genitourinary, endocrine, vascular, cardiac systems;
• taking medications that reduce testosterone production, depressing libido;
• unsuccessful posture during coitus, for example, of a rider, when the penis is relaxed, the blood begins to recede faster;
• excessive passion for alcoholism, smoking;
• obesity, flatulence, overeating before sex;
• hormonal disruptions, prostate diseases, the consequences of the operation;
• decreased sensitivity due to a condom, an allergic reaction to suppositories and other contraceptives.

If the relationship with your partner is permanent and this has not happened before, it is better to jointly look for the causes and solutions to the problem. People who know well and love each other have nothing to be ashamed of. You should not seek understanding from unfamiliar women. This can make the situation worse. It is better to stop any intimate contacts for a while, to understand what led to the development of pathology.

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It is necessary to distinguish between previous pathology events that make it possible to understand why the penis falls during sex. If a man eats well, has not experienced problems with intimacy before, does not have bad habits, is not under stress, there is a high risk of having a hidden pathology. The problem with an unhealthy lifestyle is solved by restoring the regimen, nutrition, playing sports, and normalizing sleep.

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It is not always possible to independently establish the cause. When the lethargy of the penis is repeated, only a specialist will be able to say for sure why an erection suddenly disappears during sex and prescribe appropriate therapy. One visit to the urologist is not enough. You will need to visit a sex therapist, endocrinologist, cardiologist.

Attention! The presented tips can help, but it will never be superfluous to undergo an ultrasound scan and get tested. There may be hidden pathologies of the cardiovascular, endocrine systems, hormonal disruptions.

Cock ring

An intimate device allows the penis to remain erect. It can be worn on the head, base, scrotum. The latter position allows you to prevent the outflow of blood from the penis. Cock rings are made of silicone, rubber, leather, metal. The latter option is not recommended for beginners.  

When using a cock ring for the first time, you need to try the action on yourself without a partner, practice wearing it. Remember that it is recommended to use the device for 20 to 30 minutes. Otherwise, the blood supply to the pelvis can be damaged.

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It is necessary to put on a sex toy on an excited, not a flaccid member. The device is first placed on the head and then slid towards the base. The ideal option would be a model with a vibration option. The element can be directed downward or upward, stimulating either the penis or the clitoris. Care should be taken with devices with antennae if condoms are to be used.

Special exercises

If the penis is on alert in the morning, the problem is not about impotence, but the best moment to strengthen the pubic muscles. It is necessary to tighten this group of muscles in such a way that the phallus literally bounces. You need to repeat the exercise 40-50 times. You can gradually complicate the task by holding the compression for about 2-3 seconds.

The number of exercises is constantly increasing. When you start to do 100 compressions, go to the advanced version with a thin towel thrown over the phallus. The result of such morning workouts is an improvement in the blood circulation of the penis, pumping of the pubococcygeal muscles, and elimination of the symptoms of erectile dysfunction.

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Choosing a position in sex

The member often becomes soft and falls if the position is not chosen correctly. The best for those experiencing problems with penis hardness are:

• missionary – a man lies on top;
• doggy style – a woman on all fours turned her back to her partner;
• the partner throws her legs on the shoulders of the man.

Avoid friction-free and stress-free positions. This weakens the muscles and increases the flow of blood from the penis.

Erogenous points of a man

Many men consider themselves to be liberated, but they cannot always tell or demonstrate to their partner which points bring the most pleasure. If the erection is normal, you can do without such “meticulousness”.

Male erogenous points

The fall of the penis, on the other hand, requires special attention to the erogenous zones, which are:

• above and below the testicles;
• right at the base;
• to the right and left of the member.

Some have several similar points. You can experiment and find the most sensitive to caress during foreplay.

Liberation before sex

The reason for the fall of the phallus before direct insertion into the vagina is the inability to release your inner “I”. To be liberated, you can use two main methods:

• Role-playing games. Some men fantasize about themselves as a doctor, teacher, and so on. The discrepancy between dreams and reality leads to dissatisfaction.
• Totem animal. The association of oneself with an unbridled wild beast allows many to succumb to instinct, revealing completely new facets of male power.

The methods work when both partners are involved. Otherwise, a certain amount of shyness may simply aggravate the existing problem. Feel free to tell your other half about wanting to try something new.

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Getting rid of fears in sex

Anxiety, accompanied by thoughts of the unsuccessful end of intimacy , is embodied in reality. To stop being afraid, you need to understand a few points:

• Stop thinking about the consequences. You shouldn’t try to control the process. Passion should grip and turn your head.
• Choosing a girl with whom it will be not only interesting to talk, but also build trusting relationships, including intimate intimacy.
• Don’t try to analyze yourself or the situation. Let your emotions take over your body, which follows instinct.

If none of the methods help, you should contact a specialist. The main thing is to understand that the fall of a member is not something shameful. It is just a sexual disorder that can be treated or treated on its own.