When the word “tantra” is mentioned in our presence – we remember Sting, when we hear the name “Sting” – we think of tantra. This teaching is actively promoted in pop culture. Celebrities such as Madonna, Scarlett Johansson and Tom Hanks have long practiced tantric sex. 

However, the Western worldview distorts the true essence of things. Ordinary people often mean by tantra only a physical process. In fact, as with the Kamasutra, “Peach branches” and other eastern concepts, the situation is much more complicated. Having seen enough of Samantha from Sex and the City, we begin to believe that hours of coitus will bring us extraterrestrial bliss. But is an erotic marathon really a guarantee of satisfaction in bed?  


 

What is tantric sex and what is its essence?

Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson

Authors of Great Sex Made Easy: Tantric Tips for Enhancing Sensuality

Sting was wrong in arguing that the essence of tantra is to delay ejaculation as much as possible. It is much more important to achieve enlightenment and spiritual union with a partner. Prolonged and deep orgasm is a by-product of the main goal of tantric practice. It’s funny, but the singer’s incorrect statement has captivated the minds of people for 20 years. 

Of course, later the performer made amendments to the initial remarks to the tantra, however, they caused much less public outcry.

Sting

musician, singer and songwriter

I got excited about tantra so flat. I bragged that I could make love for 8-10 hours straight. I did not understand the primitiveness of my reasoning, they say, long sex is tantra. When I began to delve into the spiritual component of the teaching, my eyes literally opened. I began to regard my wife Trudy as a temple and myself as a minister.

In classical rituals of tantric practice, partners perceive each other as the embodiment of deities. Lovers should respect any of their interactions. Respect and sensuality should not be limited to the bed. The tantric approach to relationships has much more to do with psychological programming aimed at creating a lasting union between a man and a woman, rather than a banal sexual technique.
 

What can tantric sex give you?

Let’s cut the truth-womb, a rare European is set to study tantra for the sake of spiritual development. We want to benefit from the erotic field.

Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson

Authors of Great Sex Made Easy: Tantric Tips for Enhancing Sensuality

To be honest, continuous lovemaking is an integral part of the tradition. The ancient Tantrikas believed that orgasm brought with it a mystical experience. Sex is the most harmless way to experience catharsis and merge with higher matters.

For most sexually mature people, orgasm becomes a short moment, allowing you to relieve mental and physical stress. But if you prolong the excitement and focus on building it up to an infinite limit, then it is quite possible to artificially “freeze” the peak phase. In this case, it is not at all necessary to engage in traditional sex. You can drive yourself and your partner to a frenzy without touching the genitals. Agree, it sounds mesmerizing – 1.5-2 hours to be at the top of excitement. It is important to remember that orgasm is a means, not an end. Thus, a preliminary conclusion can be drawn: tantra is good when it is correctly perceived and turns into torture when approached illiterately. 

Where to start practicing tantric sex?

1. Choose a permanent partner 

Immediately it is worth making a reservation, promiscuous sex will prevent you from becoming a tantric guru. You need to study your lover’s tastes and preferences. Pay special attention to sexual fantasies and ways of stimulation that are acceptable to your partner.

Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson

Authors of Great Sex Made Easy: Tantric Tips for Enhancing Sensuality

You must spend at least six months together. Tune in to the same spiritual and physical wave. Often, when changing a lover, a woman’s menstrual cycle is disrupted. Ancient Tantrikas associated this with an energy imbalance. The starting point for starting the practice will be the regularity of the onset of menstruation for 3 months. If the relationship is long enough, but the cycle has not formed, then serious problems are ripening in the couple, or not everything is in order with the woman’s health.

2. Focus on breathing and tactile sensations

All Indian practices focus the attention of adepts on proper breathing and the need to control their body. At the very beginning, you will feel a little constricted. Trying to focus on things unrelated to orgasm will inevitably delay the moment of orgasm.

Over time, the breath itself will enter into the natural rhythm for tantra, the depth will also vary automatically. Due to the inflow of oxygen, the sensitivity of the skin will increase. The lightest movements will begin to bring indescribable pleasure.

Here’s an example of a tantric breathing technique. It looks strange, but the result more than covers the apparent absurdity of what is happening in the video.

3. Exchange kisses

Many people tend to underestimate the importance of kissing for building a harmonious sexual relationship. Touching the lips for such people is part of the foreplay and nothing more. After the insertion of the penis, the partners are exclusively concerned with stimulating the genitals, which is not good.

Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson

Authors of Great Sex Made Easy: Tantric Tips for Enhancing Sensuality

The absence of innocent touches during intercourse creates an insurmountable barrier to the merging of the energies of partners into a single stream. We encourage people to change their attitude towards kissing. Proceed methodically, gradually pass your lips over each part of the body of the second half. First, let the man be active, and then the woman. Swap roles, explore and rediscover each other.

4. Take an hour to massage

As you prepare for the night of love, be patient. According to tantra, you should spend at least an hour on a massage. 

Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson

Authors of Great Sex Made Easy: Tantric Tips for Enhancing Sensuality

First of all, knead your partner’s entire body, avoiding the genital area. Petting should be the culmination of a 60 minute session. It is desirable that the identity of the giver and the recipient alternates. There is no place for selfishness in tantra.

5. Break the taboos

Lovers need to learn to talk about sex without embellishment or embarrassment. Any means of achieving pleasure are acceptable in tantra, even if they are condemned by society.

Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson

Authors of Great Sex Made Easy: Tantric Tips for Enhancing Sensuality

In medieval India, the violation of cultural taboos in the context of erotic rituals was widespread. Dosed consumption of forbidden fruits had a liberating effect and had a positive effect on the loyalty of the people to the ruling castes. Of course, we live in the modern world and many manifestations of sexuality are unacceptable. However, nothing prevents you and your partner from giving pleasure within the bedroom, as they say, without washing dirty linen in public.

6. Explore your limits together

Do you want to take it to the next level? Identify a few personal sexual fantasies and try to bring them to life with your partner. The list may be trivial in comparison with the content of adult sites, but you will already become one step closer to comprehending tantra. Sometimes we ourselves deprive ourselves of the chance to find happiness.