Sexual dissatisfaction with each other is one of the most popular causes of divorce in Russia, second only to adultery, violence and alcoholism. More than half of the men sadly admit that their women do not show interest and excitement in bed at all. At the same time, 70% of women in Russia vigorously imitate an orgasm and limit their sexual desires. What a strange math? Where does this fear of pleasure and freedom come from?

Genetic fear of sex sits tightly in the female body. From generation to generation, it was transmitted as something fatal, inevitable and joyless. And it was not surprising, because for a few minutes of love could follow an unwanted pregnancy, painful trials and suspense.

The primal sex boycott is over. We live in an era of effective pharmaceuticals, professional doctors and open information. The sex revolution has opened wide the doors to the freedom to choose partners and sensations. Sex is not a sentence, but a partner is not a monarch who cannot be changed. No one but us has any more power over our desires. It is enough to realize this fact to take the first bold step towards safer sex, free from taboos.

1. Remember the three rules of healthy sex

We are literally weaved from the desire to like, to meet other people’s expectations. For constant self-control hides the fear of disappointing someone with the courage and passion of their desires. In this jungle of self-deception we often lose our own face and our own satisfaction.

Sacrifice and politeness are the least sexual manifestations of our lives. If you realize that you have sex on other people’s conditions, remember these three rules for a healthy person.

• Talk about your desires and satisfy them.
• Accept and whenever possible realize the desires and fantasies of the partner.
• Take it and do what you want.

2. Enjoy the moment and be yourself

“Good girls don’t take candy, even if you really want to. So bad girls behave. ” In each of us there lives a lady mentor with a stick and a whip that loves to divide everything into categories, prohibit and hang on all locks. Good girls don’t scream in sex. Good girls can not be the initiators of experiments in bed. Good girls rarely become male sexual fantasies.

Marital substitution of erotic games and joys for home comforts is quite popular in our country, but is not the percentage of divorces based on sex incompatibility related to this?

If your man orders a delicious borscht in a restaurant, it will not break your heart. And if sex? If all this time you have always been a “good girl”, isn’t it time to let her go on vacation, having finally met the very “bad” one?

3. Sex is a pleasure for two

In the intimate women’s dialogues “about this” you can sometimes hear a sacramental phrase with the word “give.” As long as we consider ourselves sex managers, a bank of matrimonial loans, it is impossible for us to relax and experience the true enjoyment of the game.

Think about your family history. Quite often, girls are cultivated in the clear conviction that sex is a means of skillful manipulation, a resource or someone’s joy that needs to be given out. The key to this cell is simple and banal. Conscious freedom and the understanding that sex is a pleasure for two. Your partner is experiencing the true pleasure of awareness, which can and is able to give you pleasure. Female orgasm stimulates a man to exploit no less than his own, so remove the hypercontrol, let your body feel, move, feel and scream.

4. Learn and play

Talking, whispering, learning, revealing – all these verbs will be very useful to you in knowing yourself. When we do not know our body, how can another know it? As a result, orgasm becomes a random randomness, rather than the natural completion of each act. Studies do not leave options. Up to 12% of women have never experienced an orgasm, and more than 85% admit that not every sexual contact leads them to orgasm.

To help your partner give you a bright passionate sex, you need to know your own body, tastes, desires and dreams. Words and touches, role-playing games, erotic clothes, oils and exciting flavors – all this can become a powerful catalyst for vivid sensations and ignite you and your man to the desired degree.

5. Move!

Passion, possession, flight, euphoria. Sex can have a lot of romantic metaphors, but each of them will sooner or later be reduced to the physical condition and capabilities of the body. One of the most popular causes of sexual insecurity is psychological complexes associated with the lack of own body, overweight, lack of flexibility and muscle tone. A limited number of poses transform sex from free dance into something chained and monotonous.

One conclusion – you need to move. Without fanaticism, hunger strikes, marathons. Do not jump from one cell to another. Pick up body activity for the soul. The most important thing is that you like yourself in life and in bed.

By the way, the health and plasticity of our body is the law of “happy” sex. And vice versa, if despite all the experiments, the orgasm is still unattainable for you, do not hush up the problem. Anorgasmia may well be eliminated by the correction of hormones, a visit to an endocrinologist, a gynecologist, a psychologist, stabilization of the situation in the family and at work, as well as regular physical activity that is comfortable for you.

And most importantly – forget about age. Both in life and in sex there is no concept of irreversibility or limitations. The rules and prohibitions we invent ourselves. Often, after meetings with sexologists, couples are surprised to realize that the cause of family conflicts and sexual problems was silence, shifting responsibility to another, and the fear of rejection.

Therefore, the only way out is to dream, dream and talk with each other. The choice is always ours – to dutifully accept what we are given, or voice your desires, taking responsibility for your life and your sex on yourself.