Boredom during a BDSM session. Why does it arise, how to fight

A session is a fun adventure with clearly defined roles. It can be very intense, but it doesn’t always work that way. A common problem event is boredom. Why does it arise? Because the practices and their implementation are not well thought out. Proper preparation will help you avoid “chilling” and allow you to get more emotions.

How does boredom arise in BDSM?

During the session, the lower one tunes in to the game. The anticipation itself excites him. But when the process does not begin, the desire will gradually decrease. He shows less participation, which also does not stimulate the Upper. As a result, dissatisfaction with the process arises To avoid boredom, you need to learn all the time to maintain interest in what is happening with the participants. Therefore, practices must be replaced. Finding attributes shouldn’t take long. 

What actions lead to cooling

It is always important to understand the boundaries of the event. A session can last from an hour to several days. It is important to discuss this in advance so that the participants will not be late. Thinking about upcoming events, being late can completely knock you out of your mood. Each practice should have a specific duration. Even the most pleasant moments cannot last forever. And when the lower one starts to get tired, it is better to move on to the next stage. Do not drag out the moments when nothing happens. For example, leave the bottom one in a room or chained to something. The first emotion will be fear and desire to change the situation. Then the expectation and the excitement from this. But if you overexpose, boredom will arise. And interest may not return. Long preparation. If you could not find everything for the session in advance, you should use what is at hand. If you have to wait for hours, it gets tiring. Therefore, the suspensions should be replaced with ordinary bondage on the floor or flogging with rods (if they forgot to soak them) with blows with a palm or other device. But boredom can be caused not only by the behavior of the Top. The lower one can immerse too much in its sensations and not give feedback . If he is not emotionally involved, it can also be a cause of boredom.  

  



 

 

How to avoid boredom in BDSM practice?

A few simple rules will help you avoid boredom. It is important to adhere to them for all participants.

  • Well thought out script. The sequence of actions can be obvious to everyone or prepared by the Horse. Several practices should be prepared on the list. It is better to come up with more of them and realize not everything than not find what to do next. 
  • Preparation of attributes. For bondage, you need chains and ropes, for flogging, percussion attributes. A gag, blindfold, cling film, etc. will not be superfluous. All this should be at hand during the action. 
  • Suitable space. It is important to think about the convenience of all participants, to choose the optimal room. There should be a comfortable temperature and surfaces on which it is convenient to practice. This could be a regular bedroom and keep napkins, diapers and even bandages close at hand. It is better to dive into the sensations without fear of spoiling something around, so it is appropriate to think over the coverage in advance. 
  • Do not delay the action. If the process is fun, it doesn’t need to be stopped. But if the lower one fails to concentrate, if he is not comfortable, you can move on to other practices. And if it has become completely boring, do not delay and try to fix everything. Better to stop and try again next time. 

All this can be illustrated by a real case in life.

Several times I saw what magical states people plunge into when a session with needles takes place. The first injections are reflected on the face with pain. But the tenth, twentieth injection already brings only tranquility and trance. A completely relaxed body is easily amenable to new punctures, and pain is replaced by pleasure spreading over the body. And all this with a huge return flow, when the stabbing person feels a tremor all over his body, feels a thrill from each injection to the lower one.

But I saw a situation where the lower one could not enter a trance . What distracted her? Maybe the protractedness of what is happening, maybe the inexperience of the Top. But with each injection, her knuckles clenched more and more. She endured, but the pleasure never came. But this was a performance, and for the integrity of the performance, the drawing had to be completed. Over 50 needles were inserted under the skin to form wings. But only the dive did not happen, and I would have stopped earlier in such a situation. 

It is important to monitor the condition of the bottom, to understand what makes him happy and what does not. There is a chance that a technique that one likes is completely inappropriate for another. And attunement is very important. And you can say “stop” at any time. Boredom in the session – it is worth remembering about it. You can avoid it. But if you start, a second game with the same lineup may not happen.  

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