Lack of desire, doubts about sexual orientation, erection, ethical barriers, lack of orgasm. We will answer all the most important questions related to your sex life. Were you afraid to talk to someone about it? Now we will reveal to you all the details of sex life.

We will talk about problems related directly to your desires and the desires of your partner, about masturbation, and also touch on the problem of sexual orientation and moral debates about porn, prostitution and surrogacy . These are the most important questions that professional sexologists will help solve.
 

1. Why do I have no desire?
We have not very optimistic statistics for you: currently, there is a tendency for all couples to lose desire. The percentage of lack of sexual desire has increased by 8% since 2005. Women are accused of this. However, there is no need to sound the alarm. Personal and professional problems greatly affect our sex life. As with any other problem, you need to analyze the possible causes of discord in sexual relations, the state of health, our desires. You also need to seek professional help. In the meantime, you can try a guaranteed way to make sex brighter, which is little talked about. 
 

2. Lack of orgasm
What prevents you from reaching orgasm? This is due to lack of desire. Another cause of the problem is pain during penetration. It is treated with partnerless or partner therapy. There are different masturbation techniques and sexual techniques with a partner. There are many women who have never masturbated and do not know what happens to their body when they masturbate. What’s the difference between real sex and masturbation .
 

3. Do I have a normal penis size?
A question that worries almost all men. In fact, penis size does not affect a woman’s satisfaction. Size is not everything, not the most important thing. Obviously, the intensity of erection, the use of a variety of erotic techniques and the synchronicity that is established between the two partners play a decisive role in the satisfaction of both participants in sexual intercourse.

4. I finish very quickly. What to do?
Calm down! Just because you finish earlier than you want to, does not mean that you finish very quickly. Nevertheless, this is one of the most frequent questions for a sexologist. Many people think that thinking about negative things during sexual intercourse will help get rid of this problem. In fact, this is not the case. You should try to focus on the sexual act, enjoy it, surrender completely. This will help solve the problem. In addition, we offer you 20 tricks on how to prolong your sexual pleasure! 
 

5. How to cope with erectile dysfunction?
This problem can appear at any age, but more and more often it is young people between 18 and 30 years of age who turn to a specialist for this particular problem. Before starting any therapy, you need to consult a doctor and establish the reasons that may affect the violation of sexual activity. This problem also arises due to the fact that once you find yourself in a situation where you lost your erection or when you finished earlier than you wanted, you are constantly afraid that the problem will again make itself felt. Therefore, all subsequent sexual acts turn into overcoming this fear.
 

6. Do women cum?
Many people confuse concepts such as squirting and female ejaculation. During sex, women release fluid. In most cases, the amount is so small that neither the woman nor her partner feels it, but sometimes the amount is quite large.
 

7. Why do women have orgasm later?
This problem depends on the desire, the degree of arousal of both partners. In addition, the speed of the onset of orgasm does not depend on the intensity of the act and on satisfaction with sexual relations. 
 

8. What is the best age to start a sexual relationship?

Another popular question. It is not only about the moment, but also about the fear of the first sexual relationship. It all depends on the person himself: whether he really wants it or whether he is stimulated by a partner and an experienced environment. If you have too many doubts about the first sex, then you are not ready yet, and it is better to wait for the appropriate moment. Do not give in to pressure from others. The best time will come when you really want it (mentally and physically).
 

9. Is it normal to have forbidden sexual fantasies?

There are fantasies that hinder us because they do not fit into our scale of moral standards. In modern society, the attitude towards sex has radically changed and many prejudices have remained in the past. More recently, oral sex was considered a perversion, and now it has become a common part of intimacy. That is, half a century ago, dreams of cunnilingus would have been considered forbidden, but now they do not see anything bad in them. It is important to understand that fantasy is often something unreal. Most of the fantasies are so outlandish that we’re not even going to make them come true. Wanting is not harmful, you have the right to dream of at least having sex with a mermaid, Minotaur or a married colleague. As a rule, these are just dreams and nothing more. Another question is that immoral fantasies may arise, which, in principle, can be realized, but this is fraught with consequences. For example, they are unethical or even illegal. If a person is uncomfortable because of their fantasies, it is necessary to understand the reason for their appearance. For example, a woman wants her friend’s husband. It’s not good, is it? But in fact, the reason is that he has the same eyes as the guy with whom she had her first orgasm. When the reason is established, fantasy ceases to deliver pangs of conscience and often disappears by itself. 



 

10. Fantasy about threesome sex with an unfamiliar partner. How to discuss this with your couple?
This moment is purely individual for each couple. No one has the right to pry into someone else’s bedroom and reproach polygamous couples. Adults decide for themselves how they have sex. Keep in mind, however, that offering a threesome to a monogamous partner can be traumatic.

It is also important to understand why you are particularly drawn to threesomes. Maybe you just don’t have enough stimulation? Encourage your partner to use different sex toys to understand how you will feel during physical contact with two men. Maybe you won’t even like it, or you will find what you were looking for and will continue to use only stimulants, no longer returning to dreams of threesome sex. If both you and your partner enjoy this idea, study all the pitfalls of polygamous sex. It can both destroy and strengthen relationships. However, the second option is possible only with deep understanding, trust and coincidence of the partners’ sex interests.  
 

11. Can sexual orientation change with age?

Homosexuality is a sexual orientation and it cannot be changed at the snap of your fingers. And do not confuse it with periods of sexual experimentation. Let’s say you decided to try BDSM, but you didn’t like it. Well, once you put on latex and handcuffs or waved a whip after watching 50 Shades of Gray. If you do not like the fact that experience does not make you fans of sado- mazo . Do you agree? If I sometimes eat vegetables, I don’t become a vegetarian. The same is true with experiments in same-sex sex. Surely you have heard the saying “One time – not n *** a” (sorry for my French). Sexual orientation cannot change at your will. You can’t voluntarily be gay on Monday and suddenly become heterosexual on Tuesday. This is not how it works. If a person led a heterosexual lifestyle for years, and then left his wife for a man, this only means that he suppressed his essence for many years. He was always homosexual or bisexual, with age he did not change his orientation, but simply overcame his fears, finally making a choice. 
 

12. Does sex stop for women when they have menopause?

No! The opportunity to become a mother disappears, but not the ability to give and receive pleasure. In sex after menopause has its own nuances, but the intimate life with age may continue to remain rich and vivid.  
 

13. Is masturbation bad for your health?

Masturbation is considered a poor cousin to real sex and therefore carries a halo of taboos and negative opinions. In fact, masturbation cannot be the cause of sexual dysfunction or health problems.
 

14. Is it true that you can’t get pregnant during your period?
Many women come to a sexologist with this question. They worry that sexual intercourse during menstruation will not lead to conception. This is unwarranted excitement, although the chances of getting pregnant during your period are indeed less than during ovulation. We advise you to always use contraception if pregnancy is undesirable.
 

15. My partner and I rarely have sex, is this normal?

It seems inevitable that in most cases, couples who are in a relationship for a long time have less sex. This is influenced by everyday routine and monotony. If you want to make a difference, then get down to business. A variety of sexual stimulants will help to renew desires. Of course, it is best to consult a sexologist.
 

16. Why do I feel pain when he enters me?
Pain can interfere with vaginal penetration. This significantly impairs intercourse. You definitely need to consult your doctor. In addition, it must be remembered that there are two main reasons why the vagina becomes very dry and sore upon penetration: postpartum effects and menopause.
 

17. What do you think about porn?

They talk a lot about this, sexologists are often asked. This is a rather ethical question. No law forbids watching porn. You must decide for yourself whether this is acceptable to you and to your morality.

Every person who is sexually active has a responsibility to learn about sex. Prejudice and misinformation can not only lead to psychological trauma, but also cause other serious problems (STDs, unplanned pregnancy, etc.). Be careful and let sex bring you only joy!