What if a child finds a vibrator?

I have a girlfriend with two small children, 5 and 3 years old. And I know that she and her husband have several sex toys, because I advised them about the first vibrator. Once, while visiting her, I asked how she would react if curious little ones found adult toys. A friend admitted that she did not really think about such a situation, although she should. After all, if you are not prepared, the reaction may be wrong.

How it can be and how to react

In fact, this question is quite relevant and the situation can arise in any family that uses goods for adults. And there are several options for events.

The child found and took to play

This is usually done by very young children, who perceive such things as just a cool incomprehensible thing. Parents do not need to panic, sharply snatch the vibrator and, moreover, scold the child. Distract your baby with a bright toy, just a child’s toy, something tasty or just a game, and discreetly hide the device in a more secure place.

The child found and came up to ask what it is

This is done by children already at a more conscious age, but not yet old enough to understand the purpose of the toy. Also, you can’t show embarrassment and call it all sorts of epithets that are too early for children’s ears to hear. It is enough just a lengthy explanation that this is a toy for adults and you do not need to touch it. It doesn’t hurt to hide it either.

The child found and said nothing

Most often, this is done by children whose age is closer to adolescence. The kid is already old enough to be able to guess himself that he has discovered something forbidden. There are 2 options for events. Either he will be embarrassed and simply “forget” about the find, or he will quietly periodically look into the box where the vibrator is kept in order to look and touch.

Parents may not even guess about the involuntary witness, because curious children are still those spies – they cover their tracks quite professionally. But if someone else’s attention to the device is found (it is not lying, moved to the other end of the box), the simplest thing is to hide the toy in a place where the child cannot climb. If the baby is “caught red-handed,” you will have to explain. Again, there is no need to blush and shame the child that he has climbed where it is impossible. Better to calmly explain that this item is for adults only.

How to build a dialogue with a child

The most important thing in a scrupulous conversation is not to panic, not to blush, not to throw accusations at the other parent that you overlooked. The dialogue with the child should be conducted in a calm tone, without specifying the details: yes, this is a thing for adults, no, you can’t play with it and no, you can’t take it.

It is even better, after the dialogue, to remove the subject of the conversation away, to collect the child for a long interesting walk, to an amusement park, or to go with him to buy a long-awaited toy. Vivid emotions that he will receive will overshadow previous events and divert attention. Well, what, for the puncture of the parents will have to fork out.

How to avoid embarrassing situations

It is always easier to prevent an event than to deal with the consequences later. In the case of toys for adults, you need to take measures so as not to get into an awkward situation and not blush in front of your own children:

  • Safe place. It doesn’t matter where the vibrator is hidden, the main thing is that there will be no access for the child to it. A safe, a box at the top of a 2-meter cabinet, a drawer with a lock, or a place where the child will definitely not climb, because it is not interesting (is there definitely such a thing ?). 
  • Clear designation of the territory. In some families, the personal belongings rule applies and it often does work. Parents have a box where children are not allowed to look. But, at the same time, the baby should also have a place where adults will not climb without his permission. Respect for personal territory should be mutual. 
  • Adult toys that do not look like genitals. Now there is a very rich selection of sex toys, looking at which you will not immediately understand their purpose. A vibrator in the form of an ordinary massager will not raise a single question even among adults, let alone children. 

Nobody is safe from the situation when children discover adult toys. But the correct behavior of the parents will help both sides to painlessly survive the situation. Each family has its own methods of education and each will react in its own way. The main thing is not to panic, not to quarrel with the child and the other parent. Time will pass and this situation will be remembered as one of the funny family cases.

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